I remember my last days of using, when the drug no longer did for me what it did do for so long, and yet I clung to my addiction like a tattered pair of favorite slippers that I couldn't live without.
Yes, recovery is hard. No doubt about it, but the willingness and effort are so worth it in the end. So many have asked when does it get better? I can't give you a time frame because we are all individuals, finding our own paths.
This much I do know. The more you put into your recovery, the better you will get in your healing process.
That first year was a doozie for me. I white knuckled it many a night, in spite of attending 12 step meetings several times a week.
My recovery taught me to do things that were contradictory to a using addict's nature, and so I struggled, but I kept doing what people suggested to me in spite of the addict inside who wanted that easier, softer way.
Somewhere along the way, my life began to change, and change for the better.
I still take it a day at a time, but the thoughts of using have long since left my mind. Today, I find that recovery is second nature for me, and it has become that tattered pair of bedroom slippers that I love so dearly.
There are 12 promises in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, and one of those promises is 'we will intuitively know how to handle situations that used to baffle us'.
That has been one of the most incredible gifts that sticking it out in recovery has brought to me.
Yes, I've had some pretty hellacious hurdles in my recovery, but my mind didn't race to thoughts of dealing with it by chemically altering my brain. When crisis came, I either hit a meeting, called my sponsor, or reached out to others in recovery.
No matter how much clean time I have under my belt, I must, absolutely must remain active in my recovery today. That means I cannot sit at home and isolate and try to think myself well.
I still attend 2-3 meetings a week, I now have two sponsees, which is a huge bonus, and we are getting ready to resurrect Alanon in our tiny town. There are three of us making a commitment to that particular meeting. We need to be there for the loved ones.
I am grateful today that I am no longer stuck in my head, but rather keep putting one foot in front of the other and remain active in recovery. These sources of support on the internet are great, but they are supplements to my recovery, and not the end-all to my recovery.
Getting out of my computer chair and putting into action what I have learned and must pass on in order to maintain my recovery is essential for me.
Recovery is an action word.
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