I got a TPO today. Court date is next Tuesday. I'll be there with bells on. Done. Sick of living in a prison.
Oh, I also noticed this morning before work that he took my digital camera to pawn no doubt.
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itsnotinmyhead |
Got (another) TPO - this time I mean it |
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Long story short - he was using again yesterday. Came home around 9:30pm last night -- white as a ghost, wild eyed and his pupils were huge. So sick of it. He could barely talk - sounded like he had marbles in his mouth. He was in and out, messing with his car, setting the alarm off on it, searching for something in the house, just acting like he does when hes on meth. I confronted him (I was nice about it). He proceeded to ask me what the h*ll he had done to me. Wouldnt let me go to bed, etc. I grabbed the phone to call 911 and he took it from me. I went to get my cell and he basically wrestled me to the floor to get it from me. He wouldnt let me out of our bedroom. Every time I tried to go around him he would push me into the dresser. He wrestled with me as I tried to get out of bedroom. He shoved me down and I managed to crawl into the living room. He threw me down in the living room and I hit my head on our hardwood floors. Bruised my knee the back of my head and I have a fat lip. I made it outside and he threw me into his car which was parked in the driveway. I ran next door to use their phone and he left. I did call 911 and have a police report.
I got a TPO today. Court date is next Tuesday. I'll be there with bells on. Done. Sick of living in a prison. Oh, I also noticed this morning before work that he took my digital camera to pawn no doubt. |
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Hurting for YOU |
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I am glad that you finally figured out it is NOT in your head. LOL
Power to you!!!!!! |
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I am on my second order of proection and this time I have changed the locks on the doors and I will not answer my phone.
still and all besides being scared that he will kill me as he has said many times, I feel for him. I worry and am mad and turn these feelings around like 19 times in one day. But regardless of the worry/guilt I am steady about protecting myself and my daugther. In the end, my babygirl has saved my life b/c what I would not do for myself I am doing for her and me now. I know he is out there and he may be hurting but I cannot act on my compassion or feelings any longer. I do not trust him and I am not intersted in more twisted scenes of violence and nastiness. So he earned my hardness and I struggle veryday w/ being a person I normally am not but he made his choices to I remind myself- he chose to keep hurting me and keep hurting me and I would like to think that if i were he I would not be able to do all the hurting he has done. I am sharing b/c it isnt easy all the time to say _ NO MORE!- be ready to feel compassion but REMEMBER always what has happened and that u wont let it ahppen to you anymore!!! |
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Hugs and lots of prayer for strength mcr!
Good Job in standing firm and steady for you and your daughter. I know you won't be getting any medals, except from people who understand. I wish I had a medal for all of us! Even just a cyber one, but I'm not very creative. The thoughts are there. I honestly do believe that no contact is a give to the addict. luv |
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Thanks! luvepiphany!
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Brendar |
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If it helps you can focus on it at as not allowing the drama...
...not as abandoning someone in need. As that is an action not a reaction. Does that make sense? |
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Yeah, I've been feeling the compassion, feeling sorry for him.....missing him.
Then I picture him throwing me into his car in the driveway. And, it helps me to remember why I'm doing this. "struggle veryday w/ being a person I normally am not" Boy - I can REALLY relate to that feeling. This is teh first time i've gone through with it. My hearing is tomorrow @ 1:30pm. I'm scared. |
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Just be safe please.
Usually when you feel the need for an order such as that, the person you are dealing with is not rational. And being not rational they often have a bad reaction to you being rational. So, please be safe. |
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I am not having to get restraining orders against my ex but from his family. They feel "I" have disrespected their mother because I asked her on the
phone why whe would allow her married son and his married %+!@! to stay there when she professes that her religion does not even condone people living together
and she didn't let him stay with her when he was doing well with his son??? She cried and called her two psycho children claiming I threatened her and
disrespected her so now I am getting phone calls threatening my physical safety. I am very afraid because these people are wacko. Funny thing is..... it is
not my ex who is doing it. Mind you, I have let both of these tormenting psycho's stay at my house in the past when mommy wouldn't allow them at
hers!!! Also, my soon to be ex destroyed my moms house for $50,000 +. What about respect for my mom, she's been crying for 6 months now. You just
can't reason with crazy people. But I am very afraid right now and I shouldn't have to live like this.
Take Care, Be Careful Tami |
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Yes, there is the problem with loved ones who sink into insanity when faced with addiction...
meth addiction in a loved one took me down pretty far....further than I ever could have predicted. It happens to the best of us. Seemingly normal and sane people can and often go off the deep end when they love a meth addict. Naranon and alanon programs speak to that very real issue... life has become unmanageable even without knowing it. Oh, I Knew it! I was CRAZY i'm a bit better now
luv |
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