Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (TenderheartsKS) — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 16:57:24 GMT

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Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (Help442) — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 16:54:55 GMT

I wanted to let you know that some or all of your post did come true or was spot on to begin with. Thank you all very much you were all very helpful.

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (luvepiphany) — Mon, 19 May 2008 09:38:37 GMT

One Day at a Time is Most Important for YOU as well at this time. It is SO EASY TO GET SUCKED INTO another's addiction it's amazing.

Just work on today, please.

Your ex will change in a zillion ways in the next days, weeks, months. Don't Expect a thing and you will save yourself TONS of resentment and misery.

Just take care of you, if you can.

luv

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (LivesWithWolves) — Mon, 19 May 2008 08:08:47 GMT

You asked, "If they don't call me back I wish her the best and I have to move on I know it; which brings me to my next question

Q: I know all the warning signs tell me to run, but I really do love her and if she goes to treatment and gets sober I would entertain getting back togeter with her. Can you please tell me some of your experiences."

*****
I think, as you stated, YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON ......

My experiences with addicts were/are:
...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (Help442) — Sun, 18 May 2008 12:18:29 GMT

Thank all of you so much. Not only did I ask for advice in this forum, I called Narcanon, Drug Free America, and two shrinks. They all universally said the same thing you all did - tell the parents. It went better than I expected and they are greatful I told them , .The ex-girlfriend on the other hand - not so much. We go an interventionist really quick. It's actually going on as we speak. When she saw me in the room she ran out down the street yelling, "Are you going to beleive...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (Help442) — Sun, 18 May 2008 12:17:05 GMT

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (keepitsimpleforme) — Thu, 15 May 2008 10:07:21 GMT

You're not doing her any favors by hiding what you know from her parents. They may or may not believe you (denial). But, atleast you tried. If she ever gets clean she may thank you for telling them. Becasue like Liveswithwolves said -- you could help save her life.

I would tell them if it were me.

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (LivesWithWolves1) — Thu, 15 May 2008 08:37:07 GMT

As a parent, I would want to know.

By staying "trustworthy" in your ex-girlfriends eyes, you could be helping her to die.
I am sure you don't want that.

Remember to keep yourself safe.

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (LostinTx68) — Thu, 15 May 2008 06:09:36 GMT

Help 442
I'm a mother of 2, stepmother of 2 and a husband who has a DEVIL'S DRUG problem and I KNOW without a fact that if it were my child doing what you said your ex-girlfriend was doing that I may not know exactly HOW to handle it but I'd want to know. I mean all the years I didn't know about my husband I could have been praying for him - had the church praying for him, his family - etc. So missed years went by without prayer and I don't believe that anyone can...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (starfishlover123) — Wed, 14 May 2008 19:37:18 GMT

Help442,

I ditto the response that you should thank your higher power for getting out! Loved ones are the least likely to be able to help those in the throes of meth addiction. It seems like the loved ones become public enemy #1 when we try to come between our beloved and their beloved meth.

When I knew my ex was in trouble with the meth, I did everything in my power to let people I thought cared about us, (family, friends, and church folk,) know that he was in trouble,...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (LdyOfWzdm) — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:38:24 GMT

I have to say that I like lax2's idea of letting them know anonymously. This could save you face with your ex, and still possibly get her the help she needs.

Keep On Truckin'
Lady

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (luvepiphany) — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:33:40 GMT

I understand that May 1st seems like an eternity ago......

I remember when I was sort of counting the minutes that I'd been apart from the meth addict. It was so damned hard!

Thinking that any minute he could be dead.....that was my worst thinking but it was all terrible to go through.

Welcome.

Tell the parents, just be ready for them to be in Big Denial. Every loved one is at first. No One in the world wants to admit that someone they love is...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (lax2) — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:26:31 GMT

Hmmm... Id at least tell them that they MIGHT WANT to keep a close eye on her behavior... Or do I just agree with Danimal flat out and tell them... HMMM... In any case the parents seem to be the most likely to be inclined to help her...

I'd probably tell them something is up that will cause her nothing but trouble... I'm guessing they may know what you are talking about... YEAH tell Em... Do it anonymously over the phone if that is how u feel more comfortible about it,...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (LdyOfWzdm) — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:19:50 GMT

The following are just my ideas on your post!

I'm not you...
...so I don't know (should you tell her parents or not).

But I "feel" that if I were (you),
I would drop to my knees and
thank God I had escaped meth
hell.

However, from what you've written
it doesn't sound as though you have
truly escaped. (talk of a possiable
future with her).

I don't think anyone can really advise
...

Re: Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (danimal55) — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:16:56 GMT

As a parent I'd feel betrayed if you didn't tell me....her parents? can they trust you?
Meanwhile their daughter is going down the tubes.

Keep in mind....
"It takes a village to raise a child and it takes a village to save one"

Of course she blames you, it's typical addict logic and shiriking of accountablity.
We know better.

Should I tell my girlfriends parents?

feeds@yuku.com (Help442) — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:00:19 GMT

My ex girlfriend (31yr old) is strung out on meth. I do not use. The meth was in her past before we met and recently resurfaced in January of this year We were together for 2 1/2 years and our relationship recently ended when I moved out May 1st. . She got much worse. She is now selling it with three other people that have moved into her house. She is close to her parents, should I involve them and ask them to help her, or will this be a sort of betrayal and really mess things up. I am...