Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (peg59) — Fri, 09 May 2008 04:09:21 GMT

Motherglory,
I did read your story about your son. It was very enlightening to me and well as feeling heartbroken for you. When our son was about 18 or 19 he tried to fight his dad. His dad beat him up. He has lived with that for years. And now when our son gets high, he always wants to fight his dad, he said you won once, but you want do it again. He gets so angry and mean on drugs. My husband is constantly walking away, because of the guilt he feels about the fight. It's...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (BentButNotBroken1) — Thu, 08 May 2008 16:04:59 GMT

(((((((((((( Peg & Hubby )))))))))))))))))),

I hope and pray you two come to the point of *KNOWING* you didn't Cause! you son to use, you can't Control! what he does/doesn't do, and you can't Cure! what he *thinks* drugs and life-style choices on/off drugs and him QUITTING drugs. It took me a long time to quit thinking I was "in Control" of my b/f's meth use, I did know I "did not Cause" him to use, do jail time, lose all the truly...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (motherglory) — Thu, 08 May 2008 15:08:21 GMT

Thank you Mr. Soul Shine. This was or is one of the demons that tortures me during the night mostly. Not as much now since, I can talk about it. I hope Peg reads it.
It is raining here again today. I remember my old great grandmother saying rain made her bones hurt. I am just fifty now. My bones sure hurt. We all live and learn.
I quit cokes this week so I wouldn't be sick from...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (mr soul shine) — Thu, 08 May 2008 05:47:25 GMT

Gloria,
Thanks for sharing that.

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (motherglory) — Thu, 08 May 2008 05:37:19 GMT

Peg, I have a daughter who is two years younger than Lee. She never gave me a moments trouble. The only words we had in years has been over thier dad. Who reappeared in thier lives after being gone twenty plus years. And that was more me than her.
But she has even told me that life was good for them and she never understood Lee's attitude either. Of course now thier grown , she has told me horror storys about him, she should have told me when they were kids. She says she did...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (peg59) — Wed, 07 May 2008 18:42:09 GMT

Hi Everyone,

I'm still here, hanging by a thread. Our son is still in jail, he did agree to go to the treatment center. The application is being worked on now. I will know more by the end of the month. We are trying, my husband and I, not to blame ourselves for this. It is hard for us to get going on anything. It's like a bad storm just came thru and left. Now you just sit waiting on another storm.

He has just got to get his stuff together, our son I mean, I...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (motherglory) — Wed, 07 May 2008 11:30:17 GMT

Where you at Peg.? Whats going on.? Let us know. Everyone is here for you dear one.
God bless you
gloria

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (motherglory) — Mon, 05 May 2008 03:30:10 GMT

Oh my son still sticks his little digs in. Please forgive me ,but some of the tatics you used on me only sent me into drugs deeper. I don't listen anymore. Please forgive me, but some of it was your fault. My fault was trying to pay him out of it all , trying to fix everything for him.

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (forget suzette) — Sun, 04 May 2008 20:35:39 GMT

Oh yeah...
...be prepared for the academy award winning guilt trips,
He is gonna PLAY his ADHD UP!
......especially to mom....."I can't help that my disorder was untreated"

that's his bling bling for breaking you down.

.....he knows you guys are all gimped up, thinking, if you had only recognized it..bla bla bla.
He WILL press the perfect buttons and lay on em.

dont buy it.

....there a certain humility and...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (forget suzette) — Sun, 04 May 2008 20:22:34 GMT

If he looked happy in the LEAST....
....he thinks he'll have some dope in no time.
he has a plan, it's working.

.......It's a pretty big ordeal if you're gonna divorce speed.

you're heart just breaks, you don't believe it's doing this this to you.

........it's SPEED after all!

IT ALWAYS WORKED BEFORE!

.....Yep, it's a head trip.

deciding you're gonna quit is exactly like leaving...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (peg59) — Sun, 04 May 2008 20:02:59 GMT

We saw our son this afternoon. He looked strange to me. He eyes were wide open. He still was a little hyper. He did tell us though, to look for some kind of treatment center, he would tell the court that he wanted to go. My husband says he is not sure he means it, cause he maybe just wanting to get out of jail. I say it is worth a try. What do you think? He has been in jail and prison before, but it seems like it is getting harder for me to see him like this. He had done other...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (blueheart) — Sun, 04 May 2008 17:02:54 GMT

forget suzette wrote:
I admit i was COMPLETELY insane, and NO LONGER ME, when I brought size 5 pants and left my
parents baby pitures. and mine...and all the best the family has....because I am the one that loves them the most.....I left them.

...it has to be dr strange love syndrone,,,
my hand was working independeantly, without asking my brain.

THAT AIN"T ME

...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (forget suzette) — Sun, 04 May 2008 15:45:41 GMT

I admit i was COMPLETELY insane, and NO LONGER ME, when I brought size 5 pants and left my
parents baby pitures. and mine...and all the best the family has....because I am the one that loves them the most.....I left them.

...it has to be dr strange love syndrone,,,
my hand was working independeantly, without asking my brain.

THAT AIN"T ME

.....but I understand

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (peg59) — Sun, 04 May 2008 04:33:50 GMT

Motherglory,
We are going for a visit today. They finally said he could have visitors. Haven't talked to him for 2 weeks. I will see if he is willing and the courts are willing to go to a treatment center. If he says he will, I am going to call the number you gave me. If that man can't help, mabye he knows someone here that will help him. I will post, after the visit.

Thank you all for talking with me, you will never know how it has helped us. God willing, Our...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (motherglory) — Sat, 03 May 2008 18:20:20 GMT

How are things going dear? You haven't posted in a few days that I have found. Did you call the number I gave you? I hope they could help you in some way, if only to get some help in your county.
Many prayers for you and yours dear.
God bless you.
gloria

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (peg59) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 11:46:32 GMT

motherglory I got your pm. Was so glad to hear that your son is in recovery. Hopefully ours will come around. Suz thank you for your input. He gets so angry and violent when he is on meth and any drug really, that he doesn't think of the conquenses until later when his head is thinking clearly. I am going to check tomorrow to see if he can have visitors this Sunday. I can only pray that something good comes from all of this, cause his Dad and I are just wore out. Thanks for the...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (motherglory) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 11:33:52 GMT

Peg, honey, you did right, you've done right. He is like my son, he is a grown man. He has to start acting like one. I think we spoiled these kids born in the seventies to death. My daughter has been great but even she was spoiled. My son has been hell from day one. He nearly killed me in childbirth and I swear he's been out to get me ever since.
They are crazy on that stuff. Mine used...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (Loraura) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 05:58:37 GMT

You're doing the right thing.

ADHD meds aren't going to help much in early meth withdrawal. If his meds are stimulants (Adderall, Ritalin) I would suggest he sit out this jail time, then see a good doc, and try out some non-stimulant options for ADHD.

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (demodebi) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 05:21:12 GMT

I'm sorry you are going thru this...we went thru it for over 20 years before we were finally able to accept the fact that there was NOTHING we could do...or SHOULD do....this past year we have done NOTHING to help our daughter....after her becoming homeless, spending countless nights in jail (even last Friday night taken from rehab), spending months in the hospital from infections from using bad needles......she is FINALLY in rehab

BUT it is court ordered..though according to...

Re: Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (forget suzette) — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:45:10 GMT

...I'm so sorry you are going thru this.

reallly.

light surround you and protect you.

Tell Me That My Husband and I Did The Right Thing!!

feeds@yuku.com (peg59) — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 19:16:39 GMT

I posted the last week that our son got picked for non payment of fines. I suspect highly that he has been doing meth again. We did not pay the fines. He went berizk in court, got violation of probation, 2 assualt charges on police officers, and disordely conduct. I called today to see when the next court was. They are not taking him back to court Til June. I can't understand why they are waiting so long. They still have him in lockdown away from the other inmates. I ask how he...