to recovered addicts http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/topic/2544/t/to-recovered-addicts.html en-us Copyright 2006, Yuku feeds@yuku.com (FeedMaster) webmaster@yuku.com (WebMaster) Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:18:29 GMT Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:34:34 GMT Yuku Feeds 1.0 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 60 Yuku http://static.yuku.com//feed/bypass/images/button-yuku.png http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/topic/2544/t/to-recovered-addicts.html Yuku - free hosted forums and profiles 88 31 {pics-1.1 "http://www.icra.org/ratingsv02.html" l gen true for "http://yuku.com" r (nz 1 vz 1 lz 1 oz 1 cz 1 ) "http://www.rsac.org/ratingsv01.html" l gen true for "http://yuku.com" r (n 0 s 0 v 0 l 0 )) Search Search Domain q http://yuku.com/search/direct/ <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26885/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26885
No one can cure the addict but the addict.

There is No Magic Cure.

But there is Acceptance and it IS Magic.

You have gone through trauma and you don't get over it overnight but the faster you get better the better life is for you and your daughter.

the answer to Why can be found in the word, "Addict". You don't have to know his drug... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (luvepiphany) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26885 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:34:34 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26879/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26879
I am not implying that you are -neglecting- your child. Although I am a pretty good writer, perhaps I wrote that question not well. Don't let it blow your house down. I mean, honestly. In essence, I am just some jackoff on the internet and you have no way of knowing if I am even legit. Take what makes sense and leave the rest, ya know? I am not a professional and you have no obligation to listen to anything I say.


I think I wrote that kid question because I... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (le grumps) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26879 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:08:31 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26877/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26877 ..........and you feel bad, it does'nt understand what you are trying to do for it?

that's what this is like.

...you should'nt leave, we're trying to help

minus vioce tone
minus body language

with 12% of communication needed to communicate.

you have to consider on line....words are flat.

and ask what is truely meant.

...do you... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (forget suzette) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26877 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 11:49:12 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26857/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26857


I can see how you are offended by what legrumps said. Although I'm also sure that it was not intended to be offensive.



You are so right that it's a process. My ex left (or I left him) six months ago. He's missing everything. And I still miss him. I also get irked sometimes with those kinds of questions because it makes me seem like I'm at home wallowing in self-pity missing my ex. It... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (sotired) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26857 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 07:39:37 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26847/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26847 Sometimes people jump when the truth is not stated not when they are being defensive.

I think if I am offended and someone else is not then great for you- unfortunately, we are not the same person.
Yeah, ur right, I do need to continue therapy. I don't think I ever said I did not. Thanks for the kind reminder.

Also, no I am not a troll and I dont know what that's abt but... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (mcr) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26847 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 05:49:25 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26831/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26831
.......you sure jumped when le grumps touched em.

you see it's truth right?

...Grumps is very sincere in her effort to help you.

there's no way she'd intentionally hurt you....

.................unless you were a troll or something LOL! ]]> feeds@yuku.com (forget suzette) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26831 Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:47:20 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26808/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26808
Grumps - those were awesome questions - I am going to print out and ask myself the same thing each day as I work on my detaching which I have not been good about at all.

mcr - I am 16 years sober - in AA they have a saying ... "Why is not a spiritual question." What it essentially means is why does not matter. Why is it raining today - why is the sky blue, why was I born an alcoholic? Why is Paris Hilton blessed with... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (logolove) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26808 Sun, 30 Mar 2008 16:40:25 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26802/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26802
The answer(s) to the question "Why" when I was out there could have been many:

"_______(excuse)______"

"I don't know."

"I'm here now! What's the problem?"

Anything, anything at all to take the focus off of what I did wrong, because there really IS no good answer to... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Penel0pe) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26802 Sun, 30 Mar 2008 13:51:20 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26729/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26729
I had to seriously answer those questions in order to move on from my own past.

The most important ones are:

What are positive things happening in your life right now?
How soon do you think you can live a life where you are not allowing your days to be consumed....

I had to set a goal for myself of when I thought I could reasonably move on with my life. An achievable goal, but one that I could WORK toward.

You... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (le grumps) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26729 Sat, 29 Mar 2008 09:08:02 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26726/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26726
I am sure they were not ment to be at all offensive...


fish
]]> feeds@yuku.com (fishslapr) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26726 Sat, 29 Mar 2008 07:40:47 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26725/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26725
Maybe you already have answers to all of them. We don't know! We only know what is shared here. ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Loraura) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26725 Sat, 29 Mar 2008 07:30:51 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26724/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26724 feeds@yuku.com (Rocket57) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26724 Sat, 29 Mar 2008 07:22:18 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26662/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26662 I cant skip over the place I am in for an easier place or fast forward to a future place in the process.

Frankly, I am offened by ur questions. Flat out- offended.
I dont spend every waking moment in this place either but when I am having a thought, I do post.
There are many things I do throughout the day for myself and my daugther. MANY- besides going to visit two lawyers to make certian my custody remains intat under any circumsatcnes, going to a... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (mcr) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26662 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 10:57:10 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26650/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26650 The crucial question is not why, but what.

What are you going to do to make your life something you want to live today?
What are you going to do to make your childs life comfortable and loving?
What are positive things happening in your life right now?
What steps can you take, even if they are small, to move on? How soon do you think you can live a life where you are not allowing your days to be consumed pondering the actions (or non actions) of... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (le grumps) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26650 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 09:32:59 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26634/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26634 i had no experience w/ hard rugs. I thought he could quit too. he said he just needed love. i needed love too.
he has great in the beginning.
he was horrible at the end.
only he knows why? I guess. I just hope there are not some clear answers i am just not willing to face?? ]]> feeds@yuku.com (mcr) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26634 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 07:31:55 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26631/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26631
(damn Yuku)
]]> feeds@yuku.com (Rocket57) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26631 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 07:24:18 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26629/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26629 ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Rocket57) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26629 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 07:21:32 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26625/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26625 mcr wrote:
and he knows me. he knows how I would react.

It's not that he doesn't care at this point. He can't care about anything but his addiction at this point.

I'm not making excuses for him....
I'm not say you should ever allow him around you little girl at this point...
I damn sure wouldn't have he cussed her like that...
How frightening it... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (LdyOfWzdm) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26625 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 07:02:24 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26624/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26624 feeds@yuku.com (XOutlaw Woman) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26624 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 06:46:10 GMT <![CDATA[ Re: to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/reply/26616/t/to-recovered-addicts.html#reply-26616 drugs or no- it's a rejection. ]]> feeds@yuku.com (mcr) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/sreply/26616 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 06:20:53 GMT <![CDATA[ to recovered addicts ]]> http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/topic/2544/t/to-recovered-addicts.html And I had a wonderful party for her.
The only thing missing was her father, who has been using coke and meth alternating btwn the two for over 10 years.
He is 29 now and started in junior high school w/ meth.
I KNOW I should not care that he was not there or that he did not bother to call.
I KNOW I should move on and that the reasons are several and ultimately unknowable to me as to why he would not try to be there or talk to her for... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (mcr) http://methamphetamineabusediscussionforum.yuku.com/topic/2544 Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:18:29 GMT