omg, my husband is using what now?

feeds@yuku.com (confusedinoklahoma) — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 11:57:28 GMT

Just by luck I happened onto this site and am very thankful. I recently found out that my husband has been using for over 5 yrs.

. . . . . I suspected yrs ago but he has gained weight and doesn't 'look' the part. Unfortunately my son found his pipe and I had evidence of moneygram transfers to people i didn't know.

. . . . .I confronted him and he admitted it. I learned that I could lose my license and my children if police were to find anything on the...

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feeds@yuku.com (Sfj) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:13:57 GMT

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when should you give up trying to stop

feeds@yuku.com (robertborges) — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:23:14 GMT

I recently turned 59 years old and have been doing speed off and on for 25 years.since the nid 90s i have seeked help thru inhouse.outpataint programs mental health facilitis.na program have a sponsor.i just recently completed 8 months without using.dont ask why i started back.I dont know.All I know is i have everything to live for.A wif of 25 years 2 daughters now 23 and 20 1 grandson a good job.still my health for now;so why do i...

Well...

feeds@yuku.com (keepitsimpleforme) — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 09:03:21 GMT

I read that whole thread. Wow.

I don't like it when people go back and copy/paste my previous postings trying to prove a point. Makes me feel like they're really out to get me.

Anyway, I got the TPO on Brett to get him out of the house. Something needed to happen. He needed to be out of the house. We go back to court this Thursday. I'm not dropping it. It is the only thing that will help me should he decide to harass me, etc. (which he hasn't) And...

Oooh, I just had a big question pop into my head.

feeds@yuku.com (le grumps) — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 09:06:23 GMT

When I was responding to keepitsimple's post, I had a question pop into my head.

If drug addiction/alcoholism and co-dependency are both considered "addictions" of sorts - 2 sides of the same coin as it were....

Should co-dependency be considered a disease?

Is there even much agreement that co-dependency is a flip-side, or identical to drug addiction, with the only difference being the "drug" of choice?

I'd be really...

quick question

feeds@yuku.com (namakimi) — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 08:44:23 GMT

I feel pretty ignorant even asking this; maybe it's a no-brainer, but here goes:

Does the method of induction (smoke, snort, shoot) make any difference as to the strength of the addiction; and the level of physical damage to the

mind and body? Again, I'm just curious and trying to replay some things in my mind of my stepdaughter's past performances...

Kimi

Using behaviors

feeds@yuku.com (sosoconfused) — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 17:30:08 GMT

I am just curious. I am no longer interested in saving my marriage. My husband has lots of issues and I do think the main one is meth but anymore it doesn't matter.

I do get curious about the behaviors though. He seems to always still lie. He doesn't want the marriage either yet he still lies to me about things.

Can anyone (former users) explain that? He lies to so many people. He hangs out with an older woman and he seems to always be with her. His style...

does a marriage have to end for us to quit

feeds@yuku.com (nomorefairies) — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 01:20:55 GMT

Can someone give me any info or anyone that you now that was able to quit together and make it work after being on meth 5 years. We've been married for 13. split for two and started using the week we got back together. after years of not using. I can not stand the dance anylonger not one more day, I am just so confused and dont really have optons of living places or money. Can we even stop together? We keep getting 1 week or two week thats all, that all we've gotten. Have we...

How do I redirect this anger?

feeds@yuku.com (namakimi) — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 11:49:15 GMT

I know I've read that I should hate the addiction, and not the addict, but I can't seem to separate the two.

The way I see it, there wouldn't BE an addiction is SHE hadn't made the choice to stick a needle in her arm!

Every time I think I'm making some headway with this whole mess and start coming to an understanding that my step-daughter is SICK and still

WORTHY of my love, another situation arises from it and my anger resurfaces and I fall...

can they change?

feeds@yuku.com (vidaloca321) — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 08:53:28 GMT

Over the last 6 months, i've been "lurking" around reading your boards. They have been a tremendous help. I've learned alot from you all, and I want to thank you all tremendously. I finally have gotten the nerve to post. my question is, can they change, can they recover? My story is as follows:

I was raised in a strict home. My mom stayed home, Dad worked all the time to provide for his family (had lotsof siblings and I was the oldest) Dad drank an...

Bottoming out?

feeds@yuku.com (mlg) — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 10:05:44 GMT

Just wondering....Is it true that almost all addicts/alcholics that finally, and truly embrace recovery have had to have SOME kind of a
"bottoming out" before they turn to recovery? I have yet to meet one (or more) that didn't have some kind of a bottoming experience
to finally motivate recovery. I've never heard a recovering addict think on his/her own,,,"Gee, I think I'm addicted to this...I better get into
a recovery program." Maybe they...

Questions about meetings...

feeds@yuku.com (chilindrina13) — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 21:41:29 GMT

Hi,
I've been sober for about 18 months now, and while it has been the hardest thing I have ever done...it has also been the most amazing, defining experience of my life.
I quit cold turkey, after 5 years of heavy, daily use. I didn't go to rehab or counseling....which isn't to say that I didn't need to.
I know that just because I didn't use those resources to get clean, doesn't mean that I shouldn't have.

I know I still have unresolved...

Are You A Tweaker

feeds@yuku.com (Sfj) — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:40:37 GMT

I was asked to repost this.

The "Are You A Tweaker" reading is part of every CMA fellowship.

http://www.crystalmeth.org

The following is from the CMA Literature:

"ARE YOU A TWEAKER?"

It doesn't matter what you call it. It doesn't matter how you did it.? It brought us to our knees, because, without exception, that's what it does....

Advice please!

feeds@yuku.com (TenderHeart77 ) — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 09:13:38 GMT

Ok I am trying to do the right thing. But what is that?

He is now in treatment. He got a ride and got admitted all by himself. The things is everytime I talk to him I seem to get angry, and end up crying after we talk.

Last night he said his sister was going to bring him some money. I wanted to SCREAM. He took $500.00 from me to do drugs all night. Left me broke and now his sister is giving him money. He is not concern about ME it is all about him. I said well I guess she...

How Enabling Is This?

feeds@yuku.com (LdyOfWzdm) — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 17:59:02 GMT

Most of you know that my daughter abandoned her 7 month old granddaughter (Bug) with me back in Dec. Dec. 15th was the last time she's laid eyes or hands on this beautiful little girl, and I now have custody.

Last week my daughter's PO called looking for her (at 8 am), as he hadn't seen her in as much time. I told him if I talked with her I would tell her to get in touch with him, and when she called last week I told her (even though I had told her the week before I...

After you quit meth?

feeds@yuku.com (luvepiphany) — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 17:55:32 GMT

How long was it until you could face your loved ones' pain and how did you get past the pain?

How long until you faced up to the hardest of pains you caused and how did you get through it?

How long until you could even speak with a significant other or parent or child that you knew was hurt terribly and how did you find the courage?

How did those people act towards you when you first communicated with them?

Do you wish you would have said or done...

to recovered addicts

feeds@yuku.com (mcr) — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:18:29 GMT

This saturday my baby turned one.
And I had a wonderful party for her.
The only thing missing was her father, who has been using coke and meth alternating btwn the two for over 10 years.
He is 29 now and started in junior high school w/ meth.
I KNOW I should not care that he was not there or that he did not bother to call.
I KNOW I should move on and that the reasons are several and ultimately unknowable to me as to why he would not try to be there or talk to her for...

If love could have "cured" me.....

feeds@yuku.com (XOutlaw Woman) — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 08:22:22 GMT

So many times I hear a loved one say, "If they really love me, why don't they just stop?". Well it is not that simple. I have a family that loves me dearly. I would do just about anything for them, but when I was out there using meth, no one, or nothing, could have made me stop until I was good and ready to do it on my own.

My parents and family knew something was very wrong with me, and they let me know they were worried. I thought they were over-reacting. I thought I...

I used for 1st time this weekend

feeds@yuku.com (1timeSTL) — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 18:02:40 GMT

I am writing this post because early Saturday morning I used meth for the first time, smoking it over a period of several hours.
It is something that was more or less accidental; I was drunk and showed extremely poor judgment.

I wanted to lay out my experience, get input, advice, etc. because I do not want to have a second encounter.

Luckily, nothing else unsafe occurred, but I smoked a significant amount over, until early evening. I actually did not really enjoy...

Thoughts??

feeds@yuku.com (namakimi) — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 12:55:58 GMT

My step daughter has basically lived from place to place for the past few years. It changes every few weeks, or maybe every few months, depending on which group of "friends" she's hanging out with. Does anyone else have an addict that is constantly finding "new friends" and constantly changing living quarters? And what's the deal with the forever changing cell phone numbers?? And why has she had to replace her state ID card 8 times in the past 2 years??
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